Kevin and I recently watched a programme on TV about 9/11, and about all the heroes who helped on that fateful day so many years ago. It’s still such a clear event in everyones mind – everyone can remember where they were when they heard the Twin Towers had fallen…
Anyway, it got us thinking. And it got us talking about love. More specifically, the words ‘I love you’. Are these words overused to the point where they no longer mean anything?
I tell Kevin I love him fairly regularly, usually if I have had a hard day and need to hear him say it back. Or if we have had a particularly special day together. But just because I don’t tell him every day, that doesn’t mean I don’t love him every second of the day – I do.
But life gets in the way. I’m busy running round after the kids, Kevin is busy working to provide for us all. We don’t have the time to be constantly calling each other and professing our love – and if I am honest, nor do we want or need to.
Kevin knows I love him, and I know he loves me. I don’t need him to tell me. I would rather he showed me – buying me a bar of chocolate, running me a bath after a long day, or a cuddle on the sofa all mean more to me than those 3 little words. Because love can’t be summaried in words – it’s the actions that speak far louder.
I hear people saying ‘I love you’ at the end of every phone call, even if they have just phoned to ask the other person to buy a loaf of bread. I hear it shouted between teenagers in the street. I hear it from one friend to another. But do we need to be saying it all the time, or should we be secure enough to know we are loved wthout needing to hear it?
Don’t get me wrong – if I had been on that plane on 9/11, I would have been the first person on the phone telling my family I loved them. But day in day out? No, I don’t need to hear it. Because I know it. Love is more than those 3 little words.
Totally agree – saying it too much removes its power as well!
Mr M & I rarely say the three magic words but we both know we love each other and we save it to be said when it’s really needed xx
Same as us 🙂
I agree with half of this as I am a person who says I love you every time I speak to my husband as I always think that it could be the last time I say or hear those words maybe I shouldn’t think like that but that’s just the way I am X
defiantly agree!! my OH didnt tell me for over 1.5 yrs into our relationship the L word because he rather wanted to show it to me then “just” say those words. x
See myself and my hubby say I love you to each other frequently and it hasn’t lessened in meaning because of the amount of times we’ve said it, each to their own 🙂
Absolutley – if it works for you and your hubby then that’s lovely. This is just my opinion 🙂
This is such a beautiful post! I worry sometimes that I tell my boyfriend I love him too often, but I still mean it the same every time. I think it’s not about how or when you say it, but how you truly feel! And as long as they know that, it doesn’t matter how much or how you little you say it!
I think the need to say it lessens with security and stability new relationships tend to use it more because of newness and a need for confirmation and reassurance. To me love is knowing you have each other’s backs.
How lovely – just like something out of the movies!
I don’t think you can tell someone you love them too much if you do mean it. Me & my BF say it before he goes to work each morning and after every phone call and before we go to sleep, we have been together nearly 3 years and have always done it.
It may seem like a lot but it doesn’t take much even if you are busy. I know he loves me and vice versa no matter if we say it or not but it is still nice to hear it all the time as it does just remind me we still have each other everyday no matter what is going on. Good post x
I dont think there is any harm in saying it a lot!
We say it all the time
Hubby and I do say it all the time. For us it hasn’t lessened the meaning and still feels special when we say it to each other. If we don’t say it though, we don’t suddenly think ‘Oh you don’t love me any more’, we know that we do and words do not make any difference. I think it is just part of who we are.
We don’t say it very often at all! It does make it feel more special when we do though which is nice. We’ve been together for 12 years and since we wer 19 and I’m not sure if even back then we said it more frequently. It definitely suits us as people to do it like this and like you said I def find the actions and way he is speaks way more than those three words. For instance if we aren’t getting on all of a sudden I need to hear him say it but most of the time I don’t even notice! x
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